Dear Domai

I am a thirty-something woman going through a divorce right now. I have not had a steady job for the past year, and we're in the process of selling our house before my husband and I split. I'm also overweight. Suffice it to say that my self-esteem lately has been very low indeed. Not much has happened in my life lately to make me feel like the confident, beautiful woman I once felt like. I have been plagued with thoughts of "How will a man ever want me again?". But, then, I looked at your site.

I have never even been tempted to look at internet pornography (not that I consider your site pornography, but this is how the topic came up). The subject of it came up recently with a male friend of mine. He said that this was a site he enjoyed looking at it because it is artistic, classy, and was all about the simple and undeniable beauty and adoration of women. I was thinking "yeah, right, he just goes to this site to get his jollies." And, admittedly, when I first looked at the site (never having really looked at sites like this before), I was hit with a HUGE wave of insecurity. The women I first noticed were not only beautiful but THIN, and this was a site a dear friend of mine respected and enjoyed. How could I even compete with women like this? If he (or anyone else) was admiring women like THIS, how must I look to him (or them)? But, then, I started looking more closely at the photographs, looking at more of the women on the site. I've been told millions of times by men and women alike how pretty I am, how well-endowed I am, I have a pretty smile, etc. But, it never really broke through my insecurities until I looked at DOMAI.

I noticed women on this site who had very similar features to me. My friend has said one of the things he really likes about this website is how happy the women are, how natural they look and how beautiful they are smiling. Then, I thought about the multiple times he has told me how much he likes my smile, how pretty I am, and I realized: "Hey, I am as pretty as these women. I am desirable, too!" Even though I am not a stick figure, I have a wonderful beauty all my own. Because these women are not cookie-cutters shapes of the "perfect woman", it managed to turn around my low self-esteem into something very positive.

Beauty really does not come in just one shape or size or height or anything else (despite what magazine ads try to tell us). The female figure is beautiful, no matter what. And, I think confidence and acceptance plays a big part in that, too.

And, this realization has been just one more step on my current journey of being "okay", despite what is happening in my life. I feel empowered. And that empowerment, much to my amazement, is spilling into other areas of my life.

I hope that any woman who visits this site has the same reaction to it that I have had. We are all BEAUTIFUL creatures of God.

Sincerely, Christine